This week we discussed sexual intimacy. We went over a number of things but the part of the class that I learned the most from was a question and answer period.
One of the things that was asked was how much should you disclose to someone before you are married about past experiences.
I have always felt that you should tell them about past relationships. And there were people in our class who disagreed. Our teacher didn't have a answer but he did give us ideas to help us govern our decision.
Some of the things to consider are that with today's technology you don't know what people will post on facebook or say. You will never know when your spouse will find out. And many times the partner feels they were mislead if they find out later. Another thing he said that stood out was you can only make a good decision when informed. I just liked his explanation for this because I feel that you should be very open when the person you are going to marry.
We also covered teaching children about sex. We talked about the do's and the don'ts.
Here are the few things that I agree with:
Don't send the message that sex is bad. Because its not wrong, but you need to teach that it needs to be done within marriage and that it is very special and sacred.
don't use incorrect terminology. This can cause embarrassment when children don't know the actual term. and it makes sex shameful to talk about.